THE ALIGNED FRAMEWORK:
CLARITY BEFORE THE CHOICE
See your marriage clearly. Trust yourself in deciding what comes next.
A course for when you're asking,
"How do I know if my marriage is over or worth holding onto?"
Learn to make sense of what's happening, understand what's workable, and see your choices more clearly.
Does this sound familiar?
You feel stuck between staying and leaving.
You don't trust your own judgment anymore.
You feel like you're the one doing all the work.
You've tried to work on the relationship, but nothing really changes.
You go back and forth between hope and discouragement.
You want clarity and peace of mind in your decision.
You may not say it this directly,
but underneath it all, you're asking:
Is my marriage over?
Am I giving up too soon?
Or staying too long?
What do I do if my partner won't change?
Can I trust myself to make this decision?
The ALIGNED Framework Course
A course designed to clear the fog, gain clarity for whichever way this goes and peace with the decision you make.
The ALIGNED Framework
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Welcome!
1 lesson- I'm so happy you're here!
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The Groundwork
3 lessons- What does it actually mean to "do the work" in a marriage?
- The Natural Framework of Marriage
- Three Types of Alliances
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The ALIGNED Framework
7 lessons- A - Address the Fear
- L - Level With Yourself
- I - Intentionally Choose
- G - Grounded and Nonshaming
- N - Notice the Outcome
- E - Evaluate Honestly
- D - Determine the Next Steps
What If the Problem Isn't You...or Them?
Most people approach their relationship like this:
"If I could just do this better, maybe it would work."
"If they would just change, things would be fine."
So you either turn on yourself.
Or you turn on your partner.
And you stay stuck, going back and forth between the two.
But there's another possibility.
What if the issue isn't who is the problem, but how the relationship is being done?
Two people can be well-intentioned. Trying hard.
Even deeply committed.
And still be operating on principles that don't work.
If the structure is off, it won't hold.
No matter how much effort you put in.
This is where many people get trapped.
Trying harder at something that isn't workable.
Or blaming themselves for not being able to make it work.
This course helps you step out of that
by placing responsibility in the right place.
Hi, I'm Heidi
If you're facing a complex marriage, chances are you need more than someone telling you what to do.
You need someone who can help you reconnect with one of the most important sources of wisdom in your life: you.
I’m Heidi Applegarth, founder of Complex Couples Coaching and host of the Complex Couples Podcast.
I draw from my professional training in Marriage and Family Therapy, my personal experience, and genuine curiosity. I'll help you look more closely at what's happening so you can better understand yourself, your relationship, and the choices before you.
My goal isn't to tell you what decision to make. It's to help you see your situation more clearly so you can make decisions with confidence.
Before
The ALIGNED Framework
You feel stuck between staying and leaving.
You go back and forth: is it me, or is it them?
You're trying to fix, explain, or get your partner to change.
You don't trust your own judgment.
You feel responsible for making the relationship work.
You tolerate things you don't want, or you escalate and regret it.
You're making decisions based on fear, urgency, or exhaustion.
You don't actually know what makes a relationship workable.
After
The ALIGNED Framework
You can see clearly what is actually happening in your relationship.
You understand your role without collapsing into self-blame.
You stop trying to control your partner and start choosing your own actions.
You can identify whether the structure of the relationship is workable.
You tolerate reality without rushing to escape or soften it.
You trust your ability to assess and respond to what's happening.
You act in ways that align with your values, even when it's uncomfortable.
You make a grounded decision about staying or leaving, and you can stand behind it.
Group Coaching Details
When & Where
We meet weekly together on Zoom for 6 weeks.
For How Long
approximately 90 minutes
Includes
- Guided teaching
- Reflective exercises
- Practical application questions
- Opportunities for deeper personal insight
What time:
11:30am to 1:00pm CT
10:30am to 12:00pm MT
9:30am to 11:00am PT
12:30pm to 2:00pm ET
Our Schedule: Six Wednesdays
Our first Group Coaching call is Wednesday, January 06, 2027.
- January 06, 2027
- January 13, 2027
- January 20, 2027
- January 27, 2027
- February 03, 2027
- February 10, 2027
How Much
$300
I WANT TO SAVE WITH THE BUNDLEA personal note
One of the hardest parts is how much pressure you can feel to figure out what to do.
Stay or leave. Keep trying or let go. Trust what you're feeling or wonder if you're seeing things clearly.
It can feel vulnerable. And messy. And deeply human.
Sometimes the most helpful thing you can do is slow down and look more closely at what's actually happening - within yourself, within your relationship, and within the way you're making sense of it all.
My hope is that this course gives you the space and tools to do that, so you can move toward your decisions with greater clarity, confidence, and peace.
I'm so happy you're here,
Heidi
Imagine...
Not needing your partner to change in order to know what you're going to do.
Seeing your relationship clearly enough that you're not arguing with reality anymore.
No longer immediately scanning your relationship for signs of hope or failure when you wake up.
Knowing exactly what you will do if things stay the same, and being at peace with that.
Responding to your partner from self-respect instead of fear, pressure, or desperation.
Making a decision you can live with, even if it's hard.
...going from trying to figure out who's the problem,
to knowing what's actually workable, choosing accordingly,
and being at peace with it.
Learn how to make sense of what's happening and trust yourself moving forward.
I want to get started
Questions you may be asking
Will this tell me whether to stay or leave?
What if my partner won't do this with me?
Is this a replacement for couples therapy?
What if we've already tried therapy and it didn't work?
What if I'm not ready to make a decision yet?
What you will get
Clarity about your relationship.
A way to determine what's actually workable.
The ability to choose what you're going to do next.
What you won't get
Quick fixes.
Scripts to control your partner.
Pressure to stay in your relationship, or leave it.
