Stop Guessing What Your Marriage Needs. Start Seeing It Clearly.

Coaching for Mixed-Orientation Couples for the Questions No One Else Is Answering

 

Get beneath the story to what's actually going on in your marriage,
so you can move forward with self-respect no matter what you decide.

 

I'M READY!
 

When your primary relationship is stuck and you worry it might not be reparable, you need something more than just basic relationship tools.

 

You need help seeing your unique relationship clearly.

  •  That means someone who can see your dynamic specifically and be brave enough to reveal it to you, so you know exactly where you need to work. 

     

    The heaviness of relationship struggle permeates into every area of your life.  

      

  • Maybe you feel like you’ve tried everything.

  • You’ve read all the relationship books.

  • You’ve followed every relationship expert.

  • You’ve bent over backwards to make your marriage work.  

     

     If you've felt this way, it's not that you're not working hard enough.

    It's that you need a different set of concepts.

    Ones built specifically for the dynamic you're in.

     

    That’s not on you. Many experts promote frameworks that lead to more of the same between you.  

    So why not try a new framework?

I GET IT

I've been right where you are.

After eighteen years of marriage, my husband told me he was gay.

In my graduate program for Marriage and Family Therapy, my professors taught us to work with straight couples, same-sex couples, polyamorous groups, and blended families.

But no one mentioned working with couples where one was gay and the other was straight. My professors didn't understand why someone who was gay would be married to a woman unless he was coerced. 

At the time, I didn't understand it either.

Maybe like me, you've wondered:

  • Am I in the way of something better for my spouse?
  • Is my spouse attracted to me?
  • What does this mean for us long-term?

In my search for answers, I discovered something important. 

Imagine being able to…

  • Have confidence in your decisions
  • Increase your self-respect, even in uncertainty
  • Honor autonomy with dignity, yours and your partner's
  • Increase your capacity for loving relationships
  • Focus on what you can control and be able to change how you feel no matter what happens in your marriage

You need a solid framework. That's what this work is built to give you.

This coaching is perfect for partners in a mixed-orientation marriage who want to know what's possible before deciding what's next. 

I'M READY!
INTRODUCING

Complex Couples Coaching

A clear framework for mixed-orientation couples, so you can determine:

  • If your attraction issues can be resolved
  • If it's possible for both of you to have the relationship you crave
  • If your marriage is worth working on, or if it's better to move on

Tailored for one or both partners. So you don't have to wait for another person's readiness to begin.

MEET HEIDI APPLEGARTH

Hi! I'm Heidi, a trained couples coach with a Marriage and Family Therapy degree from the University of Nebraska, a mom of 5, and someone who's lived this. 

When my own marriage faced this, my graduate training didn’t have answers for me. I quickly learned that the standard relationship advice wasn't built for situations like ours. So I searched until I found what actually works, both as a wife navigating this myself and as a professional trained to understand relationship dynamics. 

What I learned and experienced changed how I see relationships, including my own. And it's why I built this work the way I did. That combination of personal experience and clinical training is what I bring to every client.

I've sat across from dozens of marriages on the other side of this, and I know which patterns hold people stuck and which ones move them forward. I know how to help you see your dynamic clearly so you can decide what's right for you. 

If you want to apply the right information before you make a crucial choice, you're in the right place.

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A new framework, not more of the same.

  In every relationship, there are two stories of what's happening between you.

 

Your stories matter.

But often, what dwells beneath the stories is what's causing the pain.

I work to get beneath the story to reality, and that makes all the difference. 

 

I slow things down.

I interrupt if needed. I take time to look differently at what's happening between you.

 

I work between sessions.

When you work with me, it's not just time in session you're paying for. I spend time on your case between sessions, often using video or audio to better understand your dynamic, so you get accurate feedback.

 

I've created a framework built for mixed-orientation marriages.

This isn't general couples coaching adapted for your situation. It's designed for it.

 

For one or both partners.

You don't have to wait for your spouse to be ready. The work begins when you're ready. 

STEP BY STEP

Here's How It Works

 

1. Fill out the application form on this page.

I'll send you a quick email to confirm that I got your application. 

2. We connect.

I'll reach out by email or text (whichever you select on the form) to schedule your free 20-minute consultation.

3. Choose your coaching package.

Choose your coaching package, make your payment, and schedule your first session. 

4. Our work together begins. 

What Clients Are Saying

"When I discovered my husband was gay, my world felt like it had been turned upside down. Heidi was an invaluable source of comfort and clarity. She asked the hard questions I needed to consider, but always with empathy and without ever telling me what to do. She was a steady, life-saving presence in the middle of a very rough storm."

~ AB

"Heidi's coaching saved my marriage. She was one of the very few who believed my marriage could be saved. But more than that, she helped me see how. She was both honest and kind. If you are in a mixed-orientation marriage, I HIGHLY recommend Heidi and her work."

~ name withheld

"I can't believe how different things are after just the first session. We caught ourselves quickly because we knew what we were looking for, and we were able to adjust and do something different. It felt so good."

~ Couples coaching client

"I did not realize that I was playing a role in my marital dynamic. I thought I was doing everything right. It was so helpful to see my role so I could do things differently. I can't believe what a difference it made in my marriage."

~ Individual coaching client

"After 32 years of marriage, my husband told me he wanted to explore feeling transgender. Right away I discovered Heidi was an astute listener and mindful responder. She respected my faith values. After a number of sessions, I began recognizing my inner growth, understanding, and a more honest me."

~ DD
 
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Limited Spots Available

and they fill quickly.

 

If this resonates and you're wondering whether it's the right fit and the right time, go ahead and fill out the application. Your free 20-minute consultation will help us both find out.

 

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COUPLES AND INDIVIDUALS

Coaching Package Pricing

 

Coaching packages consist of Couples Coaching or Individual Coaching. 

 Couples Coaching Packages

Couples coaching sessions are 2 hours.

3 Sessions

$1200

2-hour sessions
Payment plans available

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6 Sessions

$2250

Save $150

2-hour sessions
Payment plans available

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Package details are confirmed during your consultation.

 Individual Coaching Packages

Individual coaching sessions are 90 minutes.

 

3 Sessions

$950

90-minute sessions
Payment plans available

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6 Sessions

$1750

Save $150

90-minute sessions
Payment plans available

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Package details are confirmed during your consultation.

 

FAQ

Where do you want to be?

Imagine for a moment, if you leave things a they are, what happens?

  • Nothing changes
  • The same questions keep circling
  • The same heaviness
  • The same fog

If you do this work things could look different. You could know where you stand. You could trust your own decisions. Strong self-respect that holds steady.

A real read on what's possible for you and your marriage.

You don't have to have all the answers right now. You just have to be willing to take a look.

Ready to take the next step?

Fill out the application for a free 20-minute consultation where we find out if Complex Couples Coaching is the right fit and the right time for you. Once completed, I'll reach out to schedule your call. No pressure, no obligation.

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