When Something Doesn’t Add Up in Your Relationship: “The Mouth of Regression”
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What do you do when something in conflict genuinely doesn’t feel right, and you want to deal with it in a way that you respect?
In this episode, I walk through how I slow conflict down, recognize what is going on (the “mouth of regression”), and work to respond in ways that help to stay grounded, honest, and self-respecting instead of reactive.
We Talk Through:
- When something has triggered you, learning how to pause and ask yourself, “What just happened?”
- The questions to ask yourself to help identify what just happened
- What it looks like to respond in a way that shows you see the other person without shaming them, abandoning yourself, or losing self-respect
This Week’s Invitation
The next time you feel emotionally hooked during conflict, pause and ask yourself, “What just happened that triggered me?”
Give yourself the time to understand the feeling before responding.
Resources Mentioned:
Living at the Bottom of the Ocean by David Schnarch- free PDF
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