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My Spouse Wants To Stay But Says He’s Not Attracted to Me. Now What Do I Do?
What do you do when you’ve worked on yourself, shown up well, and your spouse still isn’t attracted to you but says they want to stay?
Learn how to stop waiting for clarity, read your partner’s actions, and decide...
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How Can I Ever Be Enough For My Spouse?
How can I ever be enough for my spouse — especially in a mixed-orientation marriage?
In this episode I challenge that question and explore a more grounded, self-responsible way to think about worth, attraction, and...
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Daniel’s Perspective: Why I Told My Best Friend First and How it Impacted Our Marriage
What does it mean when your spouse comes out — but tells someone else first? This episode explores the tension between betrayal and capacity, and how to make sense of that experience without losing yourself.
What...
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My Marriage Isn’t the Same Anymore. Now What?
What do you do when your marriage doesn’t feel like it used to — and you want it back? This episode explores why going back isn’t the goal, and how shifting toward self-validation can change how you show up and...
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A Subtle Dynamic that Destroys Connection in Relationships
Why do I feel so frustrated or disconnected from my spouse… and could it be coming from a subtle sense of superiority rather than what they’re doing wrong? This episode explores the hidden dynamic that blocks...
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My Spouse Hid His Sexuality. Why Can’t I Get Over It?
What do you do with the anger you feel after discovering your spouse hid something significant about themselves?
In this episode, Heidi explores why anger after disclosure is a normal response and how learning to...
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Daniel’s Perspective: A Different Kind of Authenticity
What does authenticity really mean when someone experiences same-sex attraction but chooses to remain in a heterosexual marriage?
In this episode, Heidi’s husband Daniel shares his perspective on disclosure, freedom,...
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The Problem with “I Know How You Feel”
In this episode, I share a personal story from hiking Machu Picchu to illustrate something that quietly damages many relationships: assuming we know why our partner feels the way they feel.
Misunderstanding emotions...
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I Just Want You to Want Me: The Hidden Desire Killers in Marriage
In this episode, Heidi explores the tension between emotional closeness and sexual desire in long-term monogamous relationships, especially within mixed-orientation marriages.
After sharing a personal story from early...
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Creating Space for Mixed-Orientation Marriages: Now There’s A Booth for You - Debut Episode
In this debut episode of The Complex Couples Podcast, I share my personal story of being married for 18 years when my husband disclosed that he was attracted to men.
I talk about the disorientation, the fear, the...
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Welcome to Complex Couples Coaching with Heidi Applegarth
Hello and welcome to the Complex Couples Podcast! I'm Heidi. I'm a couples therapist and relationship coach specializing in mixed orientation marriages and mixed gender identity relationships.
Whether you're just...
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